I've discovered lately that being independent is a really big thing to me. Especially since I got my car. When people say or do something that violates my independence, I tend to get a bit irritated.
I've also noticed that many guys think that girls cannot fend for themselves. They do all sorts of things to make sure the girl is 'ok'. Otherwise, the poor girl will just die off or something.
Come on now.... is that really true? In this day and age, are girls still looked upon as the 'gender that is not so capable to fend for themselves'?
Someone once told me, when God made Adam and Eve, He took Adam's rib to create Eve. That means man is to love the woman close to his heart. He did not take something from Adam's feet so that man can rule over woman, neither did He take something from Adam's head so that woman can control the man.
Close to his heart. That means, to love the woman as best as you can. But that doesn't mean fend for her. It does not mean have a preconceived impression that the woman is 'less capable'. It certainly does not mean to change the way the woman is so that she conforms to what the man thinks she should be. Of course, there is the question of submission in the Bible as well. But if I read the Bible correctly, no where does it say that submission means conformity.
I feel that, many times, while having conversations with people, men fail to realize that women do have brains, they can think for themselves, they can make their own decisions. Many times, they do not need unsolicited help / advise, but much of such are offered.
The only other thing is, while I go all out to protect my independence (from men and women alike), I have to constantly remind myself that I am NOT independent from God. Independence from God is really bad news. So yes, I thank God that whilst I have all my flaws, God accepts the person I am, while I learn everyday to be dependent on Him.
4 comments:
hey there,it's funny how some people want what some people throw out of their windows. one woman's meat, another woman's poison. but have you ever given it a thought than women are quite hypocritical? they want rights equal to that of men, same equality and same treatment. but when it comes to the law, they always seem to plead to be the weaker sex, seeking damages and sympathy from the public and of course, the judge. Sometimes, what other women value (independence for instance) is not valued the same way as other women. Some of my female students (quite a few)always have this dream that they become a millionaire, to be able to spend a lot of money and not work at all. And when i pursue to ask them the method of obtaining, many just shrug their shoulders because they've never thought about an actual plan to achieve their so-called dream. i feel, most of them just hope that their partners will just allow them to do so due to a large income earned by their husbands. So, dependence anybody?
woohoo ! independent girl !
hihi.. actually i x mind depending on some'one' (if)... coz i'm the youngest @ home & so used to dependending on the "bigger" ppl around me. But my bro alwix insist on me being more independent. Fancy why he doesn't insist that on his gf...hmm...
But i've a tick about guys (most) superiorizing themselves when it comes to driving. i wonder whether that's statistically based or just some sort of male perconception. Charlize Theron (FEMALE) beat the boys up with e MINI coop k! (check the website below)
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2003/05/26/earlyshow/leisure/celebspot/main555541.shtml
soree.. it's MINI coupe, not coop. haha !
Independance is quite different from wanting equal rights. Being independant does not equal wanting to have equal rights in society. I want to be independant, but I do not advocate equal rights. Of course, women want equal opportunities; having the to vote, job opportunities - in fact, women are better in some jobs as compared to men. In the same way, some jobs are more suited for men.
The Bible talks about men being the head of the household, so God created men to be the leader of women.
Men practising chivalry do not connote that women are 'weaker'. It's just how women like to be treated. Neither does it mean that because women like to be tended to, they are dependant.
Anyway..... I shall leave my opinion as that.
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