Ever notice how many people take it upon themself to give you unsolicited advice when you share a piece of news with them; especially those people who aren't really part of that news?
I'm getting my car soon. The reality of it is pretty overwhelming. But the thing that bothers me is how much people want to give me their advice on my decisions on the colour of the car, the Bank of which I choose to take a loan with, etc etc. It would be different if these people's advice really help; unfortunately, more often than not, it doesn't.
This is pretty much what I get "White?? Why white?? Do you know how much it takes to maintain it? Get Silver." or "X Bank? Why? You should try Y Bank - they offer lower interest rates." "Your showroom is in _______ ? Why so far? When you take it for servicing, you'll have to travel more and waste more petrol?" "Why didn't you tell me you are getting a car sooner? I know a friend who can sell the car to you real cheap."
First of all, the car is going to be mine. I will the the one washing it, using it and maintaining it. Did people really think I didn't think of all that BEFORE I made my decision? By the way, to dispell the myth, you can service your car at the servicing centre of your choice... they have something called branches. And if I was going to blab away all my decisions and considerations to people who aren't that close to me in the first place, won't I be just getting more useless opinions?
Second of all, I think before we say anything to anyone, we should consider if what we say will be helpful, and what our motives are. After all, God did say to only speak wholesome words to each other.
Third of all, did all these people really think I would change my mind after listening to their two cents worth? Isn't it logical for one to think and pray before making a decision? Wouldn't one have done much research before making a decision? Doesn't 'challenging' one's decision mean that one's decision is not respected?
Perhaps we live in a society where respect for ordinary people (as in, people who are not high profile or 'well known') is really lacking. The thing is, I do not think any one of us do it intentionally. Which is worse, coz we don't even consider it important for us to think about.
So, I'm getting a WHITE car and a loan with a bank I choose. If anyone has any problems with that, that's not my problem.
2 comments:
Whooaa....cool it anne!:)
how awesome...your very OWN car... well...soon i'll be back, and get to ride around in it...how cool!!you get to decide what to play, how loud to play it...how cold it should be...You go girl!
What? A car? why not a bicycle? cheaper to main... aiiee!! *tries to run away from the death stare.. :P
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